You are a wise woman. You will know when and if bringing up the issue of ow as customer will bring you closer to your goals. Maybe H is just trying to work out a solution in his own mind. I agree that she should be gone. Hell, I know that my H still sees OW every day. I haven't seen him in two weeks! He's still her boss. I rememebr that he said last year she would do whatever was necessary to "protect H", H telling me they would always be friends. Does it drive me nuts? You should know better than anybody. How many times have you reasoned with me?
I guess all I am saying is that this is normal. You should and you will continue to wonder. It's okay. But you can control if it takes over. Don't give the bi*** the satisfaction of getting to you. You are confident. Know that in the end you will win and she will lose. LL, I know you will in the end win the war. She's just a minor battle. Don't give her more credit than she deserves. Yes, she is a pathetic excuse for a human being, she's evil, she doesn't deserve anything.
Remember with pride that you are LL. You are beautiful, strong, wise, comforting, wonderful and his wife. She never will be.