new here. Feel like dying

[cat03]

in a very infuriating way he wants to be validated, men want to be the providers and the protectors of the family, to be appreciated. I agree with all that, a good man should receive appreciation from his wife, your H is demanding it from you and doesn't understand that's not the way to do it.

You mentioned he wanted to go to a psychiatrist with you, he prob would agree to go to a therapist, perhaps a marriage councelor. Find one, make an appt and tell him that you want things to be better this time around, that you want to work with him, and that it would help you if both of you talk to a C.

Go get the book "Love and Respect", it should guide you to see what you should find in your M, your H sure needs a lesson or two in those aspects.