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She was depressed/sad the whole day and today, which made me feel terrible about it.
Fantastic! Now...close your eyes, remember how terrible you felt, and imagine feeling that way every time she pouts about how much you pressure her into having sex more often than she wants, which, by the way, equals zero.
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Spent the whole day trying to cheer her up,
Sorry, but I threw up a little in my mouth when I read this. Wrong answer. You should have walked out and had a great time with some of the friends you abandoned when you started dating her. It's not your job to cheer her up. What if I told you that the whole "depressed/sad" thing was merely an act? What if I told you that it was just her way of manipulating you into backing off from your postponement position? Did it work? I'm actually surprised that her "act" didn't include having sex with you just to try to show you that "poof", the problem is "resolved" and, hey, let's go to Target and register for some stuff! (Love the way that little UPC code gun goes "beep" when I point it at my favorite small appliances!) But then again, the fact that she didn't fark you shows me that she's more serious about this "no sex with you" thing than even I thought she was.
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I guess I was just hoping that she would be eager to work it out.
And I am just hoping that I've been dreaming for the past eight years and that, actually, I married a former beauty-queen nymphomaniac millionaire who owns a chain of liquor stores, but, (pinches his self) nope. Time to deal with reality.
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I can't imagine living without her,
oh, come on! You have an awesome imagination! Just read up there a few lines...you actually had some hope that she would be "eager" to work things out. If you can imagine her being eager to "work things out" (aka "eager to fark me on MY schedule, not hers"), which, frankly, has not even a tenuous connection to reality, then you should be able to imagine living without her. Geeze, man, don't be so selective about using the power of your imagination.

Okay, I just thought of a way to help you imagine living without her. Go and fill up your bathtub. It's okay...I'll wait. Done? Now, stick just your head in. Keep it in there. Don't be a wuss, stay under. Hey...no convulsions! Okay, it's been a couple minutes, come on up. (short break while Seew22 is intubated, resuscitated). Now. Take deep breaths. Get it? Compare.

I see that you wonder if you're pestering her too much. You are. Get out of the house. Go meet some friends. Let her deal with her own feelings instead of taking responsibility for them yourself.


Or, if it helps, think about it this way: If you really, truly love her, don't subject her to your pitiful "begging for sex once a week for the rest of my life." Let her go. Set her free. Hope and pray that she is able to meet someone with whom she is compatible. Give thanks for being able to recognize in time (before marriage) that you are NOT compatible with her, and that, in love, you have freed her from a lifetime of feeling inferior as a wife because she has failed you in the bedroom.

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