telling me my W's lifestyle is about to change, etc.
Know what, CVA? Not your job to protect her any longer. Of course her lifestyle is going to change -- and, for her, it's going to change for the worse. I think it's great that you're not out to screw your W over financially. However, as everyone was telling GD a few months ago, this is a business decision. She's chosen to break up your partnership without much input from you, beyond what's good for your kids, you are under no obligation to help her beyond legal obligations.
Someone mentioned above that she has no conception of what life with 4 kids and no CVA to take care of them, her, the house, etc. will be like. From what you've posted, that's true. As most everyone's been saying, back off, let her start acting like someone who's separated and making her own decisions about HER house, HER budget, etc. Please, get a larger apt or something so that you can take the kids with you for a weekend or weekdays as your schedule allows. That'll give you no reason to hang out at your/her house.
Hang in there and keep the faith. This doesn't mean it's the end.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Thanks H, had to type up my proposal for visitation / finances while the D is going through the courts. Nice, more fun. My lawyer is a litigator, good and bad. If it gets nasty good, always pushing me to get the most for me, not so easy on me.
I will be fine both emotionally and financially no matter what I give her. I have, maybe even a deluded, sense of self confidence about making money so no worried about that. I could go completely broke but know I could ramp it back up. The emotional part I can finally see.
None of this is easy...
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
CVA, everyone is right, let her see what life is really like without you, If you haven't already, stop trying to rescue her from herself, you can't! That I know, is a hard one, but it is one that you have to commit to.
Just keeping being the best Dad you can be, protect and take care of the kids, let W be on her own, make her own decisions, The truth is more than likely without you around, she will fall on her face! As you know, living proof of that here in my sitch!
You are in for an emotional battle that will make all the other ones, seem like a day at the park, watching someone you love fall, and you can't do anything about it, is very tough. I pray God's strength on you my friend. Take care.
Stay tuned folks...W sent me an email asking igfi still had a C appt at 12;30, Sunny, me thinks I am about to walk into what you did theast 2 days.
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
As usual unclear, I will keep pusher cva out of the room if she comes
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
