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I am SO impressed with how patient you are. Have you always been this patient or did this come from DB'ing??


Got it from DBing. ;\) I started back in early '04...so, this is years of practice. It rubs off on others, eventually, too.

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I feel bad for JD too. It would seem she is going to be doubly crushed if she's leaves her H and then the R with your XH ends as well. She seems to be quite a needy person and both R's seem to be a bad idea for her.


I guess it's because I hear so much about her. (Which she doesn't know I know.) That, and xh and I aren't really married. I think that's really it.

I couldn't have cared less about xow...I thought she was a nasty wh#$% who intentionally pursued a married man, and tried to manipulate him into leaving me. Or TJ. I hate TJ. I call her LittleMissSk@anky. lol How trashy do you have to be to knowingly (and heavily) flirt with a married man whose wife is expecting? Yuck. (Even with all the snooping, I never did find any ILY's between xh and TJ. Actually, JD is the first time I've ever found such messages.)

Honestly, I think I'm just an empathetic person. Sometimes I'm too nice...which probably has contributed to my current predicament.

Yeah, it occurred to me last night...xh's xgf, S, was pretty much the same thing. Abusive husband, he knew her through work, said he'd "take her", etc., etc. He broke up with her a few months later because she was too meek. I might mention this to him at some time. Not right now, though.

Azhira

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