tostada...back off again. She is feeling smothered again that's why she changed. You are concentrating too hard on the overall positive that you want. Focus on the small things that have happened and don't read too much into them yet. She allowed you to touch her, she allowed you to talk nonsense with her. You are thinking to hard about what she is thinking, stop that. You really have no idea or control on what she is doing,thinking, feeling.

Remind yourself next time you are together to focus on the small baby steps and not the overall grand picture of happiness that you so want. We all want that.

Pull back, pull back, pull back. When I get to thinking too much I go for a long walk, or read and reread my DR book. Do that for the reminders of what you should be doing.

Hang in there t, it's a tough long road that has to be FILLED to the brim with patience.


Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.