sue don't take this as a backlash at you...but it is much easier to say what you would or will do than it is to do it...
while h was gone over the summer and seaking a d...
I came to terms with the r he had had....I accepted that so what he went off and "connected" with someone else...put it in the past...it means little in terms of what we have here and can have here...
thing is h isn't putting her in the past an h doesn't see it as simply he had a connection with someone and he can move on from there...h still has those feelings for her or at least he will not deny having them...
h keeps ow as a customer just as he keeps his apartment...they are a saftey much in the same way that while my h was gone and persuing a r with ow he was still being kind and supportive to me...may not have been spending time with me but he was still as my c put it...being half a h...as if wanting to keep me at arms length incase r with ow didn't work out...
is h not doing the same with ow right now....keeping her at arms length incase things don't work out here with me???
ow has to go...no if ands or buts about it...I've let h know my feelings...he understands them...yet he chooses to do as he sees fit with his own justifications...if h had discussed with me his intentions of keeping ow on this season and the things he knows of their plans to sell their home perhaps I would be more accepting of it..but once again I am in the dark...
the difference in our sits sue is that ow was never a secret to you...ow was in your home...you knew her...met her...spent time with her...
I never knew h was friends with ow till he was seen giving her a ride to her doc appointment...mere coincidence that a friend of my family was also going to that hospital and saw them in the elevator...my h and this strange woman...if my friend had not seen them h would still be hiding his friendship from me....
h lied to me about friendship with ow..yours did not...
if h had not lied perhaps I could accept it as simply a friendship..but because he hid it and the way he withdrew from me as that r progressed to the point of his leaving...I cannot accept her in any way shape or form.
