LL..I have never meant to try and put down your feelings..my h had/has some kind of r with his ff..but I trust him now, and maybe too late, that it was a relationship of him helping her with all her problems..is she a leacher, a *itch,yes..but the fact remains he chose to be a friend to her, so I can't totaly hate her..it's not her fault he spent time with her..she did not even know how I was feeling.I have decided to forgive her for what?? I am not sure..I feel sad that her life is so mixed up that she latches on to whomever will be there, m or f, married or not..maybe I am at ease because she found a new man..if my h really wanted her for a lover, girlfriend whatever, why didn't they get together after he left?? I don't know that either..I know they are still friends..do I like it..not really..but if we make our m work, I will have to come to terms with that..going in knowing that and again have to decide if i can understand it..I will not ask him to give her up, or I might as well go to an attorney and start d.I will not take all the blame for my m falling apart, but I did have a part in it..why did my h stray to her..I thought I had done everyting right..been home, did everything..again I don't know..I do know I am ready to forgive and move on with MY life..I don't want to be bitter and angry all the time...
I wish there was an easy answer for you..c really may help you..I hear your anger, resentment and feel so sad that you do not seem to feel any peace in what you have accomplished to date. Again..I have never meant to hurt you...
