HF7 ....that is what has been so confusing to me. Why does he care what I think? He has dated someone for a year and kept it from all of us (including people he works and coaches with!). His mother talks to me all the time ... and I do not believe that she knows that he has been dating someone. It's like he is leading this secret life. You would think that that would wear on someone after awhile.
The fact that he has acknowledged to my daughter the mess "he" made of our family I felt was a really big thing. To me it was a sign that he's starting to face some of the damage that has been caused. My D and H had a very close relationship before he left and she can get away with saying things to him...and she doesn't pull any punches sometimes. But when what she has to say is calling him on the carpet for his behavior and it is out of his comfort zone, he will change the subject just as though she has never said something. So to then respond to her and say that he has always felt bad about what he did to our family ....in my mind a really big thing. He also, when having this conversation with her told her not to tell me he said those things.
