Man, I feel beat up, and it wasn't me you were beating on.
My 2cents
1) KIDS, when we had kids, I did not help because I did not how to take care of them. So I avoided helping with them till our second kid, nickname the wailer. My W was close to a nervous break down with her and I learn to take care of them. Trial by fire, after that I enjoyed taking care of them.
2) FEEL-I read somewhere to use "I feel" statements with your partner.
3) LOVE LANGUAGES- You mention them but you don't say what his are, and does he know yours.
4) CUSTOMERS-Tell him to get rid of the OW's cul-de-sac, NICELY And you have to find the same number of new customers for him to replace them.
5) THREAD-Have you considered printing out this thread and letting him read it. If you do, give him one week to react to it
Quote: One of the things from DR that constantly ran thru my mind while DB'ing and will continue to stay with me is the following "Is what I'm about to say going to bring me closer to or move me further away from my goal." Something to think about
Quote: if I had a key to the office I'd sneak down there at night and use his computer to see if he plans to keep her on but hide it from me... Ask for a key, tell him it will make you "feel" better, and if you did his bills, you would have access to his pc, right.
Maybe MC is in order so you have a safe place to vent.
