All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Update since Monday.

Have started to look for a C.
Have inquired about starting a college course in January.
Have ignored all calls and emails from H while i'm at work (180).
Switch mobile off during work time.
Have not gone to yoga this week, but have enjoyed the time at home with the children.
Went out with a friend for dinner on Tuesday and i'm going out for dinner tonight.(will be dressed up and looking great when H picks the boys up).

H called to speak to the boys last night and asked to speak to me. He asked if I would like to go late night xmas shopping one night next week. I said I would love to go and what a great idea. (last year, he wouldn't do this).

I have noticed a couple of things, but am not reading anything into it:

H hung around for quite a bit on Tuesday when he collected S1 for an activity, I was in the bath and didn't get out. I had gone out for dinner by the time he got back with son from activity, he asked D's where I was.

He was early this morning to collect boys, normally he misses me as I have already left.

Maybe a coinicidence, maybe not.

25yearsmlc - you are right about me obssessing, and it doesn't help because of the amount of daily contact we have, I'm trying to address that. I'm going to take S1 to his activity next week, so that h doesn't need to be in the house on Tuesday and i'm not inviting him for lunch this sunday. I shall also get the business stuff ready for him to take on the days he needs it, so that S or myself don't have to drop it off to him.

I feel better not speaking to him so much. I would normally have written him a letter to state boundaries etc but decided against doing this and let my actions speak for themselves

I hope this sounds a bit more proactive?

XD