Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Well, I think, no I KNOW, we both are. He keeps telling me how he just can't wait to get home & just relax w/ the boys & me and just BE.
I'm thinking I'm going to try to get us a Saturday night at a B&B that's close so we won't have to drive too far, but we'll be by ourselves at least one night. It's going to be tight though b/c we only have so many weekends during the month he's home, and I don't want to do it too soon after he gets back & freak the boys out. We'll see if it works out or not.
He did mention that he can't wait for us to have a few dates while he's home too, so I need to get a babysitter set up. My parents are going to be gone for awhile while he is home (on a cruise, bless their hearts ) Anyway, I have someone in mind and need to get her over here to meet the boys, etc.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
RHW, that sounds awesome. Your thread is such a pick me up lately.
Get all the alone time you can.
That lack was definately a big problem for my STBXW.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Well, I can tell you that we had MAJOR issues/problems in our M and that's how we ended up in the D sitch. Luckily, he decided to give it a 2nd shot, but we both did or didn't do A LOT for years to truly mess up our M. Thankfully, I've been forced to learn a lot about M's, etc. and won't forget the lessons I've learned. It was very touch & go there for a long time. He was pretty deadset on leaving and was DONE.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
You sound like you really have it together about this. I'm so glad this turned around so well.
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but we both did or didn't do A LOT for years to truly mess up our M.
As I GAL and work through this, my perspective is changing. I'm seeing more and more that I did / didn't do. I'm learning some not so nice lessons, but I need it.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Feeling really good about everything. One slight bump - yesterday H needed his phone # (he doesn't call it, so doesn't know it by heart) and I kind of wondered who he was giving it to. He needed to give it to the guy who will replace him when he comes home for good. It kind of bothered me b/c I think the guy is coming from where H was here which is also where OW still is and wondered if she would somehow get the #. I just told myself I can't worry about that. I would hope (1) since she is now married, she's not going to contact him and (2) even if she did, that it wouldn't "MEAN" anything to him anyway.
He is still SO excited & anxious to get home. I just can't wait. The holidays are going to be so much fun. The boys aren't going to be able to stand it when they see him
I know once he's home for a week or so (or even a day) and then when he's home for good, that things will get back to "normal" and then we'll be dealing w/ the old day to day stuff, but I just know that we will appreciate things so much more now and just deal w/ everything in a more positive way.
I can't explain to you guys how I'm feeling right now. Not only was the whole D sitch so very hard, but then having to deal w/ him being gone like this . . . Life is so interesting sometimes, you know? I've learned so much through all of this. I'm just so thankful every day how blessed we've been. I can't dwell on all the time I feel I/we wasted taking things for granted before -- I'm just going to enjoy EVERYTHING from now on.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Awesome Red. I love this outlook and I am so excited for you to have him home. I know that having him gone has been a trial in its own right--it's darn hard work taking care of three kids on your own. Keep focusing on the positives, and you'll have more of them all the time!
I was going to ask what's the count, but I see its one month.
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-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Hi Red, I've been reading your posts, and it's great. I'm very happy for you.
I just recently retired from the US Navy, so I'm a little familiar with the strains on a marriage caused by separation and the military.
I honor, respect and applaud you and your husband's sacrifices. The military life is so hard, and so hard on families. Most civilians don't really have a clue what it's like. You are an amazing woman and person, and incredibly strong.
One month to go! Wow. And I think it's great that you have that shot of realism in your head too, namely " know once he's home for a week or so (or even a day) and then when he's home for good, that things will get back to "normal" and then we'll be dealing w/ the old day to day stuff," But you're ready for it.
Yay Red!
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
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