You have lots to figure out and you can re-read my long post to you b/c some of it applies to these "new" questions.
When he calls, IF you answer (and don't answer on the first ring or call, but don't go over board with the games either) be warm and upbeat. LISTEN LIKE A LOVER is what my DB coach said, which to you and me means Listen like a best friend,...don't try to "fix it" so much as listen and validate...you want to be the one he runs to when he's in pain AND when he is joyful and celebratory.
Minimze the length of the talks, bring up NO R TALK and if he does, just listen and if he's really vague say you don't know what he means. If he remains vague, further convo is wasteful. He should call you when he has something to say. Be gentler than I just sounded though.
I'm too tired to write more. Keep posting. Post here rather than calling him. and get some goals and boundaries and try them out here first, and we'll help you clarify. j=
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