BND, Do I want him punished ... no. Am I looking for an apology? That would be nice, but I don't expect. My situation was very public. My children walked in to school every day and were harrassed with the rumors of this relationship with another student. We have to walk back into his place of employment and face the humiliation all the time. Yet despite all of this I have treated him respectfully, given him his space in hopes of him being able to work his way through this mlc. Despite the fact that legally he has no ties to me ... he continues to lie and deceive but then yo-yo's back to being pleasant and the old h.
To this day I still deal with him publicly treating me as though he doesn't communicate with me. My daughter is very involved athletically, so we are often at her events. He makes sure he keeps his distance, but before I am in the car to go home, he is on the phone talking to me about the game for 20 or 30 minutes or more.
I guess what I am saying is that despite decisions HE has made, (i.e., giving me full custody with out even trying for shared custody) he has never had to come to terms wth those decisions. He has always had the opportunity to be involved because I have allowed it and encouraged it.
