I know this response is going to be several post old by the time I send it, but I hope it still current enough.
Quoting lostlove: he came home??? should I throw a parade?? no the guy walked out on his wife...3 year old son and 6 month old daughter and asked for a divorce...because he was in love with some woman who was already married...that he had made the mistake of spending to much time with...
he left his wife and BABIES!!!
Each time you start traveling down this path, I get the sense your anger wants to take that mistake and turn it into a noose and put around his neck! Is this where you really want to go?
Yes, he made a mistake ... a big one, but people do make big mistakes and your H is not above that. Now here's the kicker ... It does take a better person to find the compassion to forgive a person of making such a mistake. That is part of what DBing is about.
Quoting lostlove: ...just because he does the things that a man should do I should celebrate???
YES!! YES!! YES!! YES!! YES!! ... Just because we should be doing what's right, doesn't everyone does do it. The sad truth is many do not! History is full of examples, including the Bible, and today's society seems to taken a turn for the worse. So as Michelle does say, when you catch them doing it right... yes, it is cause for celebration.
Quoting lostlove: "love is always having to say your sorry"
I don't know where it came from, but I wouldn't live by this. This statement is an expectation of a certain type of expression of love. One of many and no doubt a one common desire by the S who was wronged, but it is our partner's choice as to how they decide to show their love as it is ours to show our love. Do we have the right to demand a certain kind of love ?
Aw suchs, trouble at work force me to cut this short...
Is this where you really want to go?
