starting to get the sense that the way h wants to be loved is to be thought of as wonderful but left alone!!
I compliment h often (words of affirmation)
I pick up little tokens that h likes..(gifts)
I offer to do his paperwork for him (acts of service) (that among doing his laundry, cooking, cleaning, getting him a soda etc)
I thank h all the time for little things as well as big (appreciation)
I cuddle with h just to cuddle and be close, I cuddle with h to be "close" (physical affection)
I am ask to spend time with him doing fun things or doing nothing (quatily time)
I share my thoughts and fears with h.
I offer support to h when he is down from being busy...
I point out to him the possitives in how his day is going when he is feeling down about it.
tell me what other way can I show h love????
h knows very well what I want and need to feel loved...he just isn't inclined to always give it...does that stop me?? nope!! I keep going and going like that damn energizer bunny...but you know somewhere that dumb bunny has fallen over and isn't runnin anymore.
I'm sorry but I do have every right to feel resentment toward h...I know it gets me nowhere and I try to keep from going there but I get tired of making so many deposits with minimal return.
