Help me thru this sitch

Funny, I just had someone in another thread tell me I was trying to put too positive of a spin on someone's situation. That seeing someone's W anger coming out was their own guilt and dealing with their own feelings...??? Is that not right? I am trying my hardest to see the negative things as more positive and trying to be more empathetic to their anger and feelings. Oh well, I guess everyone has their own opinions.

I'm glad I sound more positive though, because I really have not felt good about myself for years, and now I love me again.

I think a lot of people feel the same as you do - While losing one's spouse is a very difficult experience, it can also be liberating. I'm only now realizing that I feel much better about myself now I'm not living with W - Does that mean I don't ever want to live with W? Hell no, but I do really like my alone time now. The good thing is that after time alone, the time we spend together seems to be much more enjoyable for both of us.

You are so right Brit, I overthink everything and always have, but I am trying to stop thinking so much. It just hurts to not figure things out for me. part impatience/not wanting to deal with bad things/and overthinking

I'm guilty of overthinking. My C told me that I need to quit thinking so much, otherwise I'll get nothing done. Once you realize that no amount of logic will help you understand this situation.

Don't let anyone knock you for being positive! It's important to feel good about yourself ALL the time, but especially now.