Just found out

[Michael Mc C]

I went through a stage where the LAST thing I wanted was to have my W as a friend after a D (regardless of the fact that we have 3 kids). My friends are honest, faithful and have integrity. My W has none of that.

I have changed my viewpoint since then. I do hope we can continue being friends no matter what happens. However, I won't let that interfere with protecting myself, my rights and my children.

I know I wouldn't want my D (god forbid) to be ugly but I will not lie down like a dog and let her have whatever her lawyer thinks is necessary. The thought of retaining a friendship and possibly even re-establishing an intimate relationship AFTER a D could be detrimental. Please don't let those desires get in the way of you being treated fairly.