You're very sweet to send me a hug over at my place. Much appreciated, for sure!
Now about your main brain being "on" and active -- it's a good thing! I LOVE your musings about "the pit."
But maybe H can't keep up with so much mentality? Not to insult him, it could just be a guy thing...
Can you find a way to enjoy his ... um ... guy simplicity?
God knows how I think I can give advice today, I'm pretty much a mess of stress, so please forgive if it sounds like I'm H-bashing. Don't mean to.
It's just that I relate so much to enjoying my own mind's analytical bent, I understand how you ache to be acknowledged.
Something that stayed with me from Michele's seminar (I attended last year in Palatine) was her talking about how men's and women's brains work differently -- physiologically, women have a larger corpus callosum -- the bridge between R and L hemispheres -- we're wired differently -- women therefore can more rapidly jump between logical/emotional sides of their brains.
Guys have other things they're faster at. It's not "who's better" -- but we really aren't the same, brainiacally.
Michele said "maybe he's not ignoring you, maybe he's just taking longer to process what you said."
I think about that a lot, remembering how mad at my H I used to get when he wouldn't respond right away. I usually lobbed several ideas his way at once. He could usually only reply (and this after some thought) to just one. The jerk! I thought.
So I'd get angry and huffy and naggy ... and he was often bewildered.
(Come to think of it, it was this way with ALL my boyfriends, too...)
Later on, with piled-up stresses, H just began to stonewall me. You wanna see REALLY mad? Stonewall Bridget!
And that's how we got into our mess.
But enough about me.
You sound good, I hope your day is going well. Take care, and thanks again for your support.
