sweet choc, my heart breaks to read your latest; there was such a hope in your sitch - although it was going to take big work, i just knew it would happen for you. but in a way, it already has.
you are a better choc, a man among men, and i am proud of you. i can only wish to change like you have, for the betterment of my own M. it's so easy to be selfish and memememe about the R on the 'victim' end, and i don't perceive that you have done this. i wish i could state the same.
be proud of you. God has your back, friend.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
Chocolate, you have done everything right in this sitch. You absolutely had to be strong and not give in...had you not, it may have taken longer, but she would have done the same thing. I am just glad you didn't stay in it longer than you did and get hurt even worse, if that is even possible. My ex was terribly weak going back to his ex-wife and stayed with her for 2 more years. She did the same things also, over and over again, and more affairs to boot. I agree...get your house situation straight, that is very important. You are amazingly strong and will get through this. I have been just as hurt, and I can promise you, in time you will meet someone who appreciates you and you WILL be happy again. You deserve that. But one day at a time...
Thanks, everyone. I will be OK -- this I know. What used to be fear is now only an aching sadness, which is understandable considering the shared history that we have together. And I'm intensely sad for my kids, especially my sons (14, 11) who still live with us. But gone is the feeling that I can't handle this.
I'm really sorry. Icky stuff sometimes happens for a reason. You will be ok. She will wonder at sme point what she was thinking but by the time she does you will be able to just smile benignly and say, "Frankly my dear...."
