Cat, I've been where you are, many times actually. I know the feeling of not wanting to break up my family, but feeling like I can't take the negativity and neglect anymore. For me, I did eventually get to a point where I told him I can't take it anymore -- last Thanksgiving, actually. I just broke down and cried and cried, and I finally told him that I couldn't take it anymore. In my case, he was still in contact with OW and lying about it. My point is, I know how it feels to have that conflict.. feeling like you jsut can't do it anymore but also wanting to save your family.
I don't know what an imago C is. I will tell you in my sitch that H was seeing a C for a year who basically did nothing. He just listened to my H and asked about how H felt. So, I found a new C for H who is a Cognative Behavioral Therapist. She is focused on identifying behaviors, figuring out where they came from and figuring out how to stop them. She has been much better for my H. So, maybe it will jsut take another C to get thorugh to your H. Frankly, if your H doesn't like his C (which I dont know if he does or not), it may not work.
As for your online chats, I totally get it. I have gotten close to a few men over the past year where I felt like I was wanted and appreciated (Never acted on anything, nor did I get close). But I did understand how one might look outside for attention/approval/laughter, etc... if they're not getting it at home.
See how the next session goes at MC. You should voice your feelings in the session. Your H needs to know how YOU'RE feeling as well. It's not all about him. Again, been there.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
