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[Dom R]

PS:

I think you should have replied to his question of "do you think he is ready", with something like,

"yes, I think you are ready. almost no one has zero doubts/worries, when they get married. The only question is whether that person is prepared to deal with issues in a positive way, when they come up. Well, that, and whether or not to stay faithful to that one person, both physically and emotionally.
"
[note that both of those things, are a choice. Emotions may come up by themselves, but we each choose whether to "feed" them or "starve them out".]