LL - haven't been posting too much since I felt I didn't have a whole lot to add. But this stood out at me:
Quote: I let h know that I am afraid...afraid to be bruised again..but that I cannot let that fear keep me from being open to trusting and love.
That is the biggie, isn't it? We are all afraid of getting hurt again - and our spouses are feeling exactly the same thing. Can we promise never to hurt or disappoint our spouses again? Nope - completely unrealistic. Can we promise to do the best that we can? Definitely!
It all goes back to that notion of choice. Just as love is a decision, trust needs to be a decision as well. In my sitch, I choose to trust that my W is not seeking solace with another man even though that is part of her history. I choose to love my W even though she does not return that love. At least your H is trying in his own way to rediscover how to love you, LL.
We may never completely eliminate that fear, but we can do our best to overcome it.
