My Wife wants out..still!!

[Just_Me]

Pudmuddle,

I want to disagree with just about everything. Sorry.

Also, the notice that she is still so angry and has an attitude with you tells me she is trying to bait you into reacting and being emotional again

No, no and no. She had the right to be angry and she isn't actually trying any baiting. Or at least that's as reasonable as assuming that she wants you to do something.

I sense she is coming to grips with the reality she is creating for herself and that is making her feel guilty and angry. Let her soak in her own feelings this is good for her. As long as you remain positive and don't fall into the bait traps she sets, she will realize her own feelings within her own self.

Gobbledy-gook. All this talk of coming to grips and feeling guilty is just something we envision to make ourselves feel better. Where have you read even a single WAS that came back saying that they felt guilty that entire time? In retrospect, yes, he/she may feel guilty if they want to come back. But when they leave, they are getting away from you and I really don't believe that guilt is a big factor.

My point is that the focus is on the WAWs actions. We can't read minds and we can't read these actions. We certainly shouldn't put some kind of positive spin on all of it. What is the point? WHAT we can control is our own behaviors and emotions. We can get to a point that WE are happy with who WE are. The WAS can take it or leave it.