LL - you are trying to keep from being vulnerable in the relationship. But here's the catch - if you keep protecting yourself, you actually drive a wedge between you and H, thereby destroying the very thing you seek to preserve. There is no safety in trying not to be vulnerable - you must take the leap of faith and allow yourself to be vulnerable and fully present in the relationship in order to find what you seek. Of course it is risky - but it is more risky to keep sabotaging the relationship in the name of staying "safe". Ellie
