Wedding band now gone, hers that is -

[LuckyLuke]

Hi mcc_xfer,

Since the bomb over 3 years ago, I've

O taken over the cooking, getting numerous compliments from people we have over (plus it gives me something to do when the wife doesn't want to spend time with me)
O run a marathon, though in a time slower than hers (it was hot, and I wasn't in the best shape). We had a dinner guest a few weeks ago who asked whether I had run in under the 'shame time' of 4 hours, which I hadn’t. I didn't hear his question, but the net result was that my wife was ashamed of me.
O weightlifted. I regularly run and am pretty fit, at least aerobically, for a nearly 50 year old.
O taken her and the kids to Japan
O taken the kids to the States three times, without her
O worked on the house and garden
O bought a sailboat, which she races

There is a saying in German that 'the daring guys get the pretty girls'. Perhaps I need to climb mountains? Take testosterone? I am the conflict avoider, while she enjoys it.

I am a relatively introverted, theory oriented guy (writing computer science patents at the moment for work), with many of the same interests my wife has, but not the bravery and toughness.

Is there a masculine pill or class I could take to 'get strong'? Not a serious question, but how do I deal with her issues?

Luke