Just remember that you are hearing only one side of the story and in some of the posts here things have been a little embelished or not quite accurately explained. All of this I'm sure to make his plight seem that much more difficult for him. I do feel horrible for hurting HFF but I'm also tired of pretending that everything is wonderful. It's not, for me it hasn't been for a very long time. It has not been an easy decision for me to make - to end my marriage, uproot the kids etc. Yes i cry in the bathroom after dinner, i'm not a cold- hearted Biotch like everyone here thinks. HFF - you know that i am not.
We still only have one side of the story. Everyone here has heard every conceivable angle as justification why another does not want to be married. Your happiness is not HHF's responsibility. That rests upon you.
I didn't make my X wife happy either. She is remarried now and farther from that happiness she hoped she would find. Sadly, you don't realize that you will repeat this scenario. Try to run but the demons will always follow you until you deal with them. I wish you luck and admire your bravery.
