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Cat, you would be proud of me-I am proud of myself. Just got into a conversation with H on the phone. He called to ask about car ins, which I had already explained but needed to do it again. Mentioned about the school event, nicely as I could. He said he was told about it 1/2 hr before it started, I let him have that but told him that S11 was upset he missed it and stated that it was because of all this going on. That apparently hit a nerve and he went off about everyone having to make adjustment and as he always does, reminds constantly how the situation is permanent and we better get used to it. At one point he started on the fact that I was reading DR over the weekend. I immediately cut him off at the pass and said what I read is my business and I won't discuss it and if you continue I will end this call. He finally ended it, but not after more reminders of permanency. I told him that S11 and I cannot find his gym shorts to they must be there. He said that was his problem. I said he needed to be reminded and helped and if he was unprepared enough in gym he would fail then it would be his problem. More crap ensued, and everytime he veered off onto all of his issues I cut him off and steered it straight. I told him lunchtime at work was not the time to discuss this and I would talk to him later and eventually hung up. Another issue was that he now wants a permanent visitation schedule. He always insisted on not having that. And now he is arguing that he wants me to pick the kids up after work at his house so he doesn't have to sit around mine doing nothing. I said he could make them dinner. I argued that I don't think I should have to pick them up as this is his doing for one, but for another I don't even get home until almost 7 when I did it. And I haven't eaten yet. He tried to say I wouldn't do it for my kids and I said not to throw them into it, guilt wouldn't work, it was between him and I.