Quote: Heck, I don't even know if you can call it dating -- more like just getting together and talking at this point.
Hmmmm, isn't that, um, basically, a date?
So, if I get with any of my guy friends and do this, is that a date too? Just razzin' you buddy! I hear ya!
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Given your previously stated preference for meeting/dating, this does sound like your kind of pre-date dating though. Right?
Yeah, I think so. I'm pretty sure we'll end up doing something without our kids involved in the not-too-distant future. At this point I'm trying to figure out how to go about getting there. I want to call her to see if she would like to get together this weekend and do something, but I need to figure out what "something" could be. I'm going to start looking into possible things today. However, since I called her first and invited her and her S2 to dinner in the first place, I'd sure like to hear from her this time around. If I don't though, I'll still call her. She did say we should get together again, so I know I'm in.
The prospect of this dating thing is kind of tingly!
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Given that DBing, in many ways, is only partially about getting your M back, you, my man, are a success story.
No question, Heim -- thanks! I know that this site and DR have been very instrumental in my changes becoming permanent.
MN,
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GD - You've really impressed me, man. You've managed to pick yourself up, you seem to be feeling really good about yourself, and aren't letting the D get you down/things bother you overly much, it seems.
Thanks, brotha! It really does come with both time and effort. I've been separated for just over a year now, and the D will be final in less than a month. I was the one that originally filed for D (which I totally regret), and now I'm living with those consequences. However, I've learned so much through this experience, and I know that I wouldn't have learned what I need to in order to improve myself and my life otherwise. It was a necessary evil, for sure.
I know that it's probably difficult for you to imagine getting to a place of acceptance, forgiveness, true detachment, letting go, etc, but in time you will get there. And, when you do, you will be at the place that gives you the best chance of getting W to look back and reflecting on her choices.
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I'm one of those newbies who's not fully DB'ing, or "getting it". Something I need to try and focus myself on, because I've let myself slip on the "get a life" end of things.
You're not among those I was referring to, MN -- you're trying and doing a good job. It takes some getting used to, and you're getting there, my friend. If you read through some threads, you see people not taking ANY advice from DB vets, DR, etc. They don't read DR, don't read other threads, and basically just wallow in their own self-pity and hang on to their anger. They aren't even trying to grow and understand themselves and how they got here. I'm becoming desensitized as a result of being here for a little while, which makes it difficult to post to people who "aren't getting it." Therefore, I too am at fault.
