Thanks for posting on my thread. It HAS been a lot to deal with, but being here lets me know I'm far from alone.
I can completely relate to your frustrations of the day. I agree with Acorn et al that you might want to bring up what you DO need from your H to help with your insecurities at a calmer time. Hard given your sitch, but probably worth the effort.
Have you tried writing him a letter outlining clearly what actions on his part would help you through this? Would he be receptive to such?
I had a dose or two of the patronizing stuff. H "asking" if he could get on line, saying he'd write out everything he spent with withdrawals from the bank...not helpful. Makes us feel "small" for being so "petty".
Have you (and more importantly has HE) read "After the Affair"? Very helpful. Dr. Phil also suggests that after an affair, the one who strays SHOULD be an open book. Without us having to pursue or wonder.
I must say it's been easier on me as my H has been away from work for the last 7 months. Had he gone back, I too would be agonizing over the late hours and especially the business trips (shudder!).
Hope you find some way to deal with this, and if you do, let us all know, because those feelings crop up over here from time to time too.
