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It's likely he'd be more forthcoming talking in an environment in which he feels comfortable. And work typically isn't that place...



work isn't the place (true but he does work alone and for himself)
in the evening isn't the time or place cause well...it's after work and the kids are around.
night isn't the time or place cause well he's tired and just wants to relax and enjoy the night.

so it seems there really is no right time or place...never (ok I know that's not a good word) been a right time or place...there's always something in the way...or some reason not to...the weathers on...working...tired...hungry...kids...ugh!!!

one of our problems has always been that there is never a right time to address things...or rather...h just stonewalls all the time...it's very hard to find a right time.

I've asked...I've suggested scheduling some time (ah duh that would be joint counceling making it mandatory or simply picking a night that is intended for such conversations if needed)

I dunno....I am the analyzer...I am the phychological one...I am the one who wants to put the pieces together h just wants them all to fall into place.

who's right? who's wrong?

neither...but we do have to find a way that works for each of us..to avoid such intereactions as the one this afternoon.

LL