Please believe me in this, you sound very, very angry and focused on your W and what she's doing and very hung up on not having control over what she does.
If you're not expressing that anger to your W, great.
Having your child ask your W if she could stay with you IS putting your D in the middle. You ARE entitled to 50/50 custody, but establish the schedule and adhere to it as much as possible -- you'll need flexibility from your W for your work schedule I would imagine.
I've also always wanted to ask you this, but it never seemed appopriate and I didn't want to offend you. So, caveat, not trying to judge or anything but why are you so interested in continuing to be married to a woman who is only interested in, from my point of view, a sugar daddy?
Best,
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY