In the world we find ourselves it is often true that no negatives equates to a net positive. At least it sounds like things are cordial with your S and the situation is no longer at critical mass. Just keep on studying the DR book and become one with the principals set forth in it. All you can do is all you can do. If you take the pressure off of her and your relationship and give her the space she needs to come to terms with things, then things MIGHT work out. Just accept that fact, find ways to make yourself happy (relative), and continue to do things that "work". Sounds like you are off to a good start.
