If I make things difficult for him he will do the same back and he can do more damage to me than I can to him. And I don't want it to get nasty. ============================= Expecting him to feed the children when he has them is not beign difficult, it is something that should happen by default! the kids are his responsibility when they are with him, he needs to make sure there is food for them, not you. No one is talking about being nasty,just let him know that since you feed the children when they are with you he should feed the children when they are with him. When my H left he put some stuff on the credit card for his new appt. The cc was primarily mine so I got the bill, I told him I expected him to pay for all his purchases, he whines and complained saying there was no money, I wasn't nasty but I didn't back off, I told him I wasn't paying it and that the stuff was for him, that he had 1month to give me the money. He gave me the money the next week.
You teach him how to treat you, think very well, yes, you want him back but that doesn't mean he gets away with stuff. It isn't fair, he chose to leave well then, he has to learn to be a single parent and care for his kids and feed them.
What news? he told you to get checked? dont' understand.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
