Starting all over, my story and my dream

[Michael Mc C]

Way Back - sorry to see you here but of course being here is a great step in getting the support and guidance you may need.

Has the A been ended or is that still looming out there? I spoke to my W's OM and I have mixed feelings about that. He ended it because of the lies she had told him about where we were in our marriage when this all started and because he has his own problems at home (she was a major distraction, something HE needed).

However I since my W is still in a fog, I wonder if it would have been better for the A to die a natural death. Let her make her mistakes and hopefully see that our R is/was not beyond repair.

I have seen other posts here stating that you should NOT contact the OM. It is difficult, I imagine, since this was a friend of yours.

Are there other contributing factors that you know, or suspect? Can you use these to begin working on 180's?

Keep posting and let us know how things are going.