I agree - otherwise you will drive yourself crazy... My H was withdrawing from me after coming home for good. The first two months were great and then he seemed to get back into the pattern of withdrawing and I incorrectly assumed he was back to talking to OW - this did not help our sitch at all.
Keep the faith that he knows what he needs to do - and if he did talk to her what would that change for you. I asked myself this and I realized I was once again attached and could not throw him out (immediately anyways) so I choose to accept his answers as the truth. Day by day is how I go...
Take care of YOU!!
HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing