I am glad that you posted!

I think that you have the right idea, give her time and space, that is what we all have done, and it does help. Not only for them but you also!

Me - 44
H - 44
M - 19yrs
together - 23yrs
D16
S8
EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07
H still @ home
Recovered!

"Do or do not, there is no try" Yoda