What a good year this has been.....

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Thanks, Kman.

Not a bad question, but then: If this were not your property to purchase, then why do you need to sign a quit claim, which the sole purpose is to remove the signer's claim to that property? Seems to me it's every bit your business...

True enough. I'm sure there is more to be revealed. From what I understand, it is common for spouses to do this when they are separating or divorcing so the other doesn't have any claim to the property they are purchasing for themselves. But that isn't how this seems to be happening. That's not how H is going about this, there is no separation/D agreement. Instead, he said the loan's subject to him being M, he claims to pay off some of our debts with the equity, etc, etc. It really would be interesting to see a copy of the loan application that's actually going to be used.

Also, you may not know all the ins and outs of this transaction (because he's not to be believed), but what you DO know is that he really wants you to sign a quit claim if he is going to proceed. Therefore, by his own definition YOU are the one dictating the pace of how slow or fast this goes...

TRUE! I like how you put this. Thank you!!

And do your best to let his spew roll of your back - he's just trying to dictate terms in a situation where he doesn't have the control (or the right) to.

Thanks, I think I'm doing good at letting his spew roll off my back. You're right, he doesn't have the control or right to be dictating the terms he is trying to. I'm so thankful I know this. It's also so nice to hear this from someone else. When we were living together he got away with this sometimes. He would wear me down and just had to have whatever he wanted. Even when I wouldn't agree to things, he'd refuse to respect my feelings and go ahead with whatever. It is so freeing to know now that I wasn't crazy or difficult. To really know that.... it feels so good. To be standing back and observing this more like an outsider is so validating.

You're welcome! Thank YOU!! I figured you'd find Peet's at the grocery store. Woot!


I finally got to visit with my bro. He's been so busy lately, now that his girlfriend is back in country. He is so smart. That was so helpful too, to talk with him about this. Don't know what I'd do without you guys right now. After talking with him, I'm gonna send off that email requesting the contact information you suggested, Kman. My brother made a convincing argument to me to at least try to have that info with me when I see the L. He also reminded me that unless there's a clear advantage for me, not to do anything.

Thanks again!!!!!!! {{{{{Kev}}}}}