My W, the RN, who thinks she's an "expert" on Asperger's and Autism Spectrum Disorders just because she reads a lot of books on the subject, should know better than to push a hereditary link and assume that one has been fully proven -- the jury is still out on that one. They (the real experts) feel there could also be a perinatal cause, with several different possibilities for that. So it could also have been triggered by the allergic reaction to liver toxins she had about two weeks prior to giving birth to S6. We just don't know.
Lwb, I meant that I have been cattle-prodded by my W to get screened for AS so she could satisfy in her own mind that these negative facts in our lives -- the failure in our marriage and the problem our son has with AS can be pinned on me. Now that I can prove her assertions are unfounded because her basic premise is untrue, I don't really know what to say to her. I don't know if at this point letting her know she's wrong about me is going to have any positve effect. I know I need to act "as if" and not try to anticipate her reaction or her next step, but I can't help but know she will either ignore and deny my new facts, or move on to the next excuse.
I think I just have to tell her that I can't stop her from what she wants to do. It's her life and while I want to renew our marriage and rebuild our family I can't keep her from running away if that's what she really wants. So, now that we know that this AS gambit is pointless, she needs to stop trying to find excuses and demonizing me.
I find that W's lack of curiousity about my intake interview is in itself quite curious. I am sure she is very curious, but she has not asked yet. I know she remembers that it was today. Oh, well, perhaps she's convinced she already as all the answers and doesn't need me to corroborate.
