London is such a wonderful place! It sounds like you have a cool job, too. I would love to know more about it.
I went to London in December 1988 to visit a my boyfriends family. I had a ball.
As for my day, well, C session went great! XH showed up a little late but at least he showed up. He told me he wasn't sure he would make it as he was at a court date for some work situation. It was a session for the kids, anyway, so I told him I could handle it. Well, he showed up anyway and the kids were thrilled. WE all ended up sitting down and speaking to the C for the first time in two years. We ironed out some issues with the holidays and XH and I were definitely on the same page.
Funny, I like him better now that we are divorced. Also, I have seen the respect factor quadruple as far as how he treats me since I finsihed school and got a job. Oh what a little independence can do for the ole respct o' meter..lol
Looks like he is coming for xmas day. Kids talked about how they love it when he comes to video tape them opening presents and I saw XH light up. I mean, absolutely light up. I am realizing that any little positive reinforcement he gets from the kids or myself he eats up. I suppose this is due to the fact that he thought everything he touched in the last three years during MLC went to crap. He thought he had the opposite of the Midas touch, and I guess he did.
Also, he is having some problems with work. He has a patent on a product he sells and one of his former employees is trying to compete with the product. Basically, this guy that used to work for us as an international salesman took the formula, duped it and went after all XH's customers. Pissed me off so much when XH told me this. I know XH may not have been the greatest boss during his MLC but he paid the guy well and let him do his thing. My XH never disrespected him and the only crime XH did was not pay too much attention to what this guy was doing. And, look what happened? The guy went after all of XH's clients (which were mine at the time as I co-owned the business when this all started) and basically trashed Xh's reputation.
I talked to XH today about it and told him he wasn't a quitter. I said to XH to stand tall and keep moving ahead. I said get the best legal advice you can get and do not waiver. XH is thinking about sellling his business now and basically retreating back into his hole. He does this when he feels defeated and says he wants to move away from it all and work from his garage..(he is a builder by nature) So, I told him he was a success and I remember when he had the world at his finger tips and loved to run the business. I said don't let this jerk take that away from you. I said, You are not a quitter! I told him I was proud of him, too.
I thought he was going to fall over..It was like I was the enemy for so long and now I was reminding him of the good he had in him that he may have forgotten about during MLC. I said to him that I would be glad to suppport you during this trial and if this guy needs to see this, so be it.
His employee hated the Rat as they had to work together. So, that caused a lot of animosity as the employee used to call me and gossip about XH and the Rat after we split up. Now I see how this old employee stirred the pot. So, that is that.
It was good to be my XH's ali today and I could see his eyes soften with every word I said during my "Rocky" pep talk. I am strong enough to support him now which is funny. He is a very smart business man and worked his a** off to get this patent and it was ten years in the making. I was part of that blood sweat and tears so I can testify to that.
Well, we will see what happens..It made me irrate to see that XH is not able to fully move on from this MLC due to this fact. Geez, he lost his family, respect of many, many people, and almost his business..But this employee took advantage of that..A whole new aspect to the world of MLC..interesting.
So, the T session went well. I liked that we all sat together in the room so the kids saw a united front. Funny, XH came in a sports coat and khakis so he was dying to impress us all because he was in his courtroom attire. Usually he is in jeans and a t-shirt as he owns a construction business.
Well, off to bed. I had a good day prior to T since I spent much of the day writing. I am submitting a few stories here and there to maganizes in hopes of getting published. Wouldn't that be great?
