Haven't been on all wkend.. Read through your updates.. cannot freakin believe her!!! How dare her take your kids with om kids and act like this is all hunky dorey???? Your not even Divorced!! That just makes me so sick!! DO NOT GIVE HER ANY COMPLIMENTS OR NICE GESTURES>...Please, don't... she doesn't deserve any of it!!! I know you are going dark.. and that's exactly what I would have told you to do!!
I happen to like Darth Vader (star wars fan ..lol).. so DO IT!! Don't call her back unless it has to do with the kids ONLY.. For her to say she is so in love with this guy and then play games with you... she is a PLAYER! and she will get hers in the end.. I firmly believe what comes around goes around.
Your girls will always love you.. don't worry about that.. they are not looking at the situation like you are, they are young. Its just other kids to play with, but really for her to bring them to a holiday dinner.. NO WAY.. She is a rude, selfish person, that doesn't even deserve what your willing to give, they deserve each other.
I am thinking of you and hoping you stay strong!
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
She's called a couple of times.. I've mostly been on the phone with work. All convos have been short and pointed towards D's.
Tonight she said she would call D's at 6. Well.. finally around 7:15 she calls. I guess she had a work meeting. Finally called around 7:45 and she got to talk to the D's.
I've spent over an hour trying to get them to go to bed. Both are whining about this and that and finding every excuse under the book to stay up.
I brought this up to W.. which of course states "They are in bed no later than 7:30 over here... except on the weekends."
BS.. BS..BS..BS.
Anyway.. so I said "7:30 is bedtime then?" "Yes".. "OK.. gotta go" "What's wrong?" "Nothing.. gotta go.. bye"
I could hear in her voice she's frustrated.. could care less.
Mostly talked about D's. I tried to keep it short and pointed, but when I said I had to go, she interrupted "I really called to talk to you.. I know that seems weird.. and it probably is, but I do want to talk to you"
Alien woman.
So I talked to her.. pretty much acted like I could care less.. seemed distracted.
She immediately asked about my plans Thursday night (I knew this was eating her alive) I obliged her with details.. friend from work in the past.. she's met her before (recalled the story how W was trashed when they met.. nice).. she's blonde (that struck a nerve.. W knows I like blondes )
She said that was nice, but I could tell it bothered her.
I steered it back to the D's.. about babysitting on Thursday.. D3's B-day.
I think I did OK.. not sure though. I'm not getting excited.. it was almost like having a conversation with my sister (if I had one). I don't want to get excited. I know it's just her way of reeling me back in.
she interrupted "I really called to talk to you.. I know that seems weird.. and it probably is, but I do want to talk to you"
I can't believe how fast that worked.
I think you're on the right track here. If nothing else, it seems to be buying you a little breathing room. And that ain't bad.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
She feels her power over you fading and is trying to re-assert it. Do not give in to the dark side! She is not entitled to any details of your social life except as it might affect your daughters.
Playing games with her just lets her know that you are still interested--telling her that your friend is blonde. If she is so interested in your life, maybe she should give up OM and get to know you a little better.
This is all about power and her feeling secure. If you are still in the wings, she feels that she has a "fall back" position. If you move on, then she is on her own with nobody to bail her out if she fails.
Keep dark, truly dark. Don't give her anything that doesn't pertain to Ds. She will try to use whatever you tell her to manipulate you later on.
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