Still trying to win WAW back (#2)

[theforlornhope]

I'm so glad you're sleeping again. Robert Heinlein once said something like "happiness consists of getting enough sleep." I believe him.

I don't know about the light headedness / low blood pressure if diet is good. Mine went up at the beginning of all this and hasn't gone down since. I'll need meds for that soon I suppose.

I only get light headed when I push the cardio too hard. Which is to say not very often lately.

I'd make an appt. with a doctor about that though. Record your diet/exercise for about 1-2 weeks before you go in to see them too.

She said she feels like I'm talking down to her and making her feel like an idiot.

Ummm....check the box.

let me guess,

You talk down to me.

You make me feel like I am stupid.

You try to control me.

You don't ask me what I think when you are making decisions.

You never let me have any control of my life.

You.......me...... Fill in the blanks.

There are a lot of men who do these awful things to their wives. I abhor that. I see it regularly in my work.

I know these behaviors, and I know that I don't do it to my STBXW. Yet I still hear the phrases listed above.

Evaluate your behavior. Do you do these things? Or is it that she feels out of control of her life and needs someone to blame? Only the two of you can decide which it is, and she isn't making the best decisions right now.

If you do, (which I doubt since you're here,) please get help for control issues.

If you don't, ignore the alien speaking at you and deal with the larger issues at hand. GAL, your 180, how to let her see these things without rubbing her nose in them.

Man, this sux, I know. I'd rather be accused of darn near anything than being controlling/mentally abusive.

They need to justify their decisions. Let's not play into their hands and give them reasons to believe that what they are doing is right.

Show her who you really are.