Help, wife in mlc?

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I need help and words of wisdom. W is in mlc, we were seeing MC she confirms. Sitch currently S, she lives with D24, D's BF & GS. All she does is go to work and sleep. She works in a deli, hours 4AM to 1PM. She goes to D's house after work, sleeps until 4:30, leaves to p/u GS from sitters, back to D's house asleep by 7PM. She works almost every weekend. She has filed for the D but I haven't been served yet.

Should I drag my feet on the D or just go along with it?

It seems she is in depression or withdrawal stages now. She has had 2 or 3 EA PAs, I can forgive these as i understand they were brought on by MLC, not something she has control over. I thought she was making headway, she was more friendly towards me. She recently went on an annual girls trip to Gatlinburg, she stopped by the house, we chatted no R talk, told her have a good time asked if she needed money. As she left I asked for a hug, she gave me one squeezed me, i said ouch (I was 2 weeks from quad bypass surgery, it hurt my chest), told her it felt good. On her was to Gburg she called S26, while they were talking she started crying, he asked her whats wrong, she said she was depressed. Imagine on your way for a fun trip and you're depressed! After her return she hasn't contacted me, in fact she filed for D on 11/09. Guess a weekend of female bonding and male bashing changed her mind. So far I haven't been served.

Should I break the darkness and call or go see her? Any ideas as how to proceed would be of great help.

Thanks Mike