Shortly after dinner, after I had been in my upbeat mood for awhile (drywall always makes me happy - it's the spackle that pisses me off!!),
Now see I disagree with ya here I love to spackle it's the drywall that is all dusty and messy
Originally Posted By: mcc_xfer
So I did it without expectation. Without a pat on the back. Without acknowledgement of the conflict of interest I was facing.
Ok you should have stopped here. this is great. I have to learn this also. I have been doing good. but........
Originally Posted By: mcc_xfer
I hope that this episode stirs something up inside of her. Maybe she'll start wondering why my interactions with her have changed instead of thinking I'm just being a jerk.
She should know better, I can be one hell of a jerk!!!
Getting respect is NOT being a jerk. That is one thing they bring up in the nmmng book. Just becase you are not a "nice guy" does not mean you are a jerk. ou are a man that respects himself. You can not expect others to respect you if you don't respect yourself.
Ok now here is my problem dealing with this. and it is counter DBing but.... If I respected mysefl then I would demand the respect of NO OM CONTACT UNTIL WE ARE SPLIT UP. Yes I know in DBing they say she needs to be the one to stop but I have always said "if you let something happen and don't say anything about it then you are condoning it.: I have applied this to my life but for some reason let it slip with my sitch.
Good work MCC, I think I may add you to my "safe person" list when I start my 12 step program. Mark Andyv and paul ave already agreed to help me.
Husband
Last edited by husband; 11/14/0712:22 AM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
