My 2 cents is that your proposal sounds like a test. You want H to miss you in your way, so you are going to test him. My question is, are you willing to live with what happens if he doesn't miss you and doesn't chase you? What then?
What would it take from H to show you that he missed you? What is your expectation that H doesn't know about?
I've been there and in my experience it doesn't work. It's a difference of expectations and the showing of feelings between you and H. My H and I were just like that. You're expecting H to react in one way and H has no idea what that way is. It's a no win for him.
I would suggest talking. Not just vague talking. But using the words In order to feel more loved/appreciated/worthy/.... I need ___________________________ from you. I know to you it seems as if ____________________ is unnecessary/silly/out of your comfort zone... but it would mean a whole lot to me.
That one phrase has saved H and I numerous times. H has moved home because of it and the communication that it opened up.
When life gives you lemons, trade them for limes and break out the tequila!!-- Soxfan2007
7/1/05 Bomb 7/20/05 H moves out 2.5 years of Rollercoaster 10/30/07 H moves back home
