I think Puddle's post is spot on, and really what i was thinking as well after reading your last post... Your post helped give me a little better context for your "babysitting" comment/feeling
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Having to go to her place to hang out with them doesn't make any sense. You should have scheduled time with them AWAY from the house. I know your current place is small, but you don't have to be there, though it would probably be fine briefly.
I know that this isn't just 'her' place...but it is where she's living, and it clearly adds to the stress you're feeling, that comes through loud and clear in your posting. I'm not discounting your feelings there...it just makes it that much harder for you to stay on an even keel with regards to W.
I know you've got a real gang of kids, and as I recall your current apt is pretty small. I'm not well-versed in your logistics, but if it looks like this is the way things are going to be for awhile, and you really can't move toward buying something, is there some way you could look at a fairly short-term lease on a larger apt. that would allow you to spend some time there with your kids?
Just rereading through Puddle's post, and she's already said virtually the same thing all the way through...so, Ditto on Puddle!!
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P.S. And I would think that convos. like this, about the logistics of the kids are ones that y'all really haveto have soon! The Thanksgiving issue screams for it...
