She wants the separation she should have been the one to leave, not him. If he has the right attitude, he can undo this. It's iffy though, because of the obvious emotions.
Then again, maybe I've just become a hardass.
I'm sick of these women.
You know catfan...the ones like I used to be...
Amy you may not recall but I moved out because I had a place to go. Yet she's the one that wanted the separation. So you know that I'm starting to have a shorter fuse with "these women" too.
I really feel the pain other guys are going through and wanting to move back home. In the end we want to be there taking care of, protecting and providing for our families. By being forced out it really comes across as we aren't worthy.
I've thought about just moving back in on a number of occasions and once I have really through it through completely I've come to the conclusion it isn't a good idea. All it will do is throw fuel on the fire and make matters worse. That's why I believe in the GAL bit that Michele stresses so much. It let's the WAW spouse know we don't need them, we might want them but we don't need them, we are self sufficient.
I firmly believe codependency is a huge issue with many divorces along with just taking each other for granted. You make yourself unavailable, appear self sufficient and you become more attractive because someone else won't have to care for you all the time. You are responsible!
But back to the original issue at hand, I still think he needs to show independence, but also show responsibility.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
