Thanks soul_mate. I am trying, but it is hard, as I'm sure you know. Just waiting and acting as if you are fine goes against the intuition, so I will just trust that it is what I should be doing right now. Anytime I even imply any R thoughts it gets brushed away, so I have stopped doing that and won't until she is clear that she is ready. As Michele says, if something doesn't work that tells you to stop doing it.

I just noticed today that last night W removed the fact that she is married from her facebook profile, so that hurts a little. She does not state she is single, it is merely blank. At least she states she is only interested in "friendship" and not a relationship...I keep trying to tell myself, don't get worried by what she is doing, you can't control her, just work on yourself, but it's hard.

I have been making progress with my emotions though. Went to a C today for my second session, that's one of the big points we are working on.


Me: 43 W: 41
Together 2009, Married 2011
Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5
Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021