Donna and saffie Thanks!! And saffie thanks on the comment about my dog, too. Isn't she cute??? She's my baby.. even though she's around 11-12 now. My friend was teasing me knowing that the dog sleeps on the bed with us and saying "What if she stays in the other bed and doesn't come in the new room with you?" Don't think it'll be a problem.
Care Thanks! I honestly don't think he will ever ask directly. Once I got past the "it's all my fault" stage and really looked at the M, I realized that's one major problem that he/we would need to work on if we do work on things. He expected/expects me to read his mind.. sorry H, I'm just not that good a psychic. We both need to work on being more direct, but the "mind-reading" thing is really frustrating.
During the time shortly after he came home last year we talked about this. I had asked him a question for the third time and realized that was a kind of "naggy." I caught myself, stopped, and said "H, when you don't answer me, I don't know if you didn't hear me, are thinking, or are ignoring me." He said "I know, I'm sorry. I was thinking." I thanked him and then said something along the lines of "It seems like this happens with us a lot. If you acknowledge that you heard me at least I will know you're thinking, but when you don't, how would you like me to handle it? Do I keep asking you? I can't read your mind." He responded with "I know. I've realized lately I expect a lot of people to do that.." and gave me examples of times he'd expected mind reading from me and even from other people. Really surprised me that he did that. He didn't CHANGE anything, but it was nice that he recognized it at least. First step, right?
Incidentally he never did suggest how to handle it - he didn't have a solution other than jokingly saying "well, maybe you can get better at mind reading."
So long story short.. I think he won't say anything more about it. I'll either have to bring it up, or just make the "move" without discussing it.
ST Good thoughts on the goals, thanks! Hope you like the pics.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
My friend was teasing me knowing that the dog sleeps on the bed with us and saying "What if she stays in the other bed and doesn't come in the new room with you?" Don't think it'll be a problem. 
