Thank you so much for the reality check. I am one of those impatient sorts who thinks that because things are improving, they should be "there" already.
Yesterday, I had a really flat conversation on the phone with H during the day, and I felt a bit nervous, but when I came home, we had a lot of really animated conversation, which goes to show me that I cannot predict everything and acting "as if" really works. These chats (never R chats) happen as he follows me around, and I never follow him around (per DB instructions), but he always follows me from room to room or comes into the kitchen when I am cooking to talk. These are some of the little things that I try to hold onto (ah, for one passionate "ILY").
We are also planning a big lifechange, a major move. Has anyone else planned a move or another big change in the midst of the piecing process? In part, it is positive because we are planning a shared future and we are dreaming together, but I am nervous too b/c of the "groundlessness" that CL mentions.
